i've thought a lot about relationships lately. family, friend, romantic, professional. you name it, it has been on my mind. relationships are so integral to who were are. when they are good, things are usually good in our lives. when they are bad, they completely throw our lives into disarray. and when they are bad, we often say things we later regret. we all know that when pushed by emotion, we can say things that cause serious damage to people we care about. but what about the times when we fail to say something that should be said. we can't take those words back either. that got me thinking about the times i've never said to some people. is it time to change that?
my friends know i love them. they are like family to me. but lately my family has been feeling neglected by me. in particular, my mom. she feels like i've left the nest and extinguished communication. i've changed how we communicate because i want our relationship to move past her thinking i need my mommy. i'm not a kid. i'm very much a grown woman. but i feel my mother still wants to communicate with me as a child. the change has been hard on her. but i realize that i could have made it easier by telling her that i was changing the plan. she might still have a hard time with it but at least she wouldn't have been in the dark. sometimes, it's the words you don't say that are important. we've since talked and i hope the redefinition of our adult relationship is nurturing for both of us.
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